Welcome your emotions to better manage them

When we talk about “managing” our emotions, we do not talk about repressing them, but not letting them direct us or invade us. Emotions are often indicative of satisfaction or non-satisfaction. They tell us about what we live. They often talk to us more about us than others. Events, circumstances, people, everything that happens outside of us, can trigger emotions that we already have inside us. You’ve certainly witnessed someone driving a car who honks at the slightest step of another driver, raises his arm with a sigh of impatience, and expresses his anger verbally aggressively. The chances are high that this person has accumulated a lot of frustration and anger from other sources than on the road.
It is not always easy to identify one’s emotions especially if their existence has never been validated or acknowledged. In some cases, they may have been reprimanded, misunderstood, turned away. Today, you have the power to recognize them, to go through them, to understand the message and to release them.
In the workplace, emotions are still taboo; we do not talk about it, it’s as if they did not exist. However, the professional environment is famous for triggering a whole panoply: anger against a colleague or a boss whom we do not feel respected, sadness at the responsibility that has been given to someone else, shame of ‘to be the worst performer in the group, guilty of saying no even when we were overwhelmed.
And what about the fear of feeling your emotions?
Remember that an emotion is a passing energy; I do not know anyone who died having felt one.
The worst that can happen if you welcome an emotion is to experience discomfort for a while. Much better than dragging this emotion in the bag and exploding dramatically at a time quite inappropriate!
If, for example, you want to start crying in your pa-tron’s office, look up and look up. You will force your brain out of the emotional zone to go into the visual zone. You will be able to find your minds and continue the conversation. You will be able to revisit what triggered this emotion and act accordingly. There are better places than others to fully accommodate your emotions.
Here is a little manual to “manage” your emotions:
1) Take the time to feel your emotion.
2) Welcome her (do not ignore her or try to push her like a balloon under the water).
3) Do not judge her (there are no “bad” emotions or emotions that are not allowed to be).
4) Feel it in its subtleties, identify it if you can. Confirm it; admit to yourself that it exists.
5) Take a deep breath, step back and get in touch with the mes-sage or the indicator of non-satisfaction that it brings you.
6) Act accordingly (release it, express yourself, take action, change your perception, become available again, etc.).
And to finish, do not marinate too long in your emotions; you risk becoming a raisin instead of a beautiful fresh and juicy grape!

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